An year to remember

Obviously, 31^st December is just notional. An ending or starting of an year, old or new, doesn’t really matter if you look at it in, you know, that way.

But look at it this way. In the past 365 (probably 250) days, my life changed in every sense. As people know, except the media, no one gives a damn about what happened to the world in last year. But what I have to say is my life changed too. In big ways - good and bad. That too in almost equal proportions. Maybe more of bad, but enough of good too!

I’ve passed the most important exam I was ever going to pass my whole life. That too without much fuss. Had the most terrible tragedy I was ever going to go through in my whole life just 15 days before giving that exam.

And then, things happened to me which changed how I look at the rest of my life (In a positive way). In a way, I would remember 2009 as a year in which I had experienced things which do not occur twice in a lifetime. So if I wanted to consider one year most dominant in this particular life, this year isn’t a bad choice.

By the way, the New Year doesn’t start for me after the night of this 31^st. It’s postponed for me it seems. The explanations for which I refuse to give!

Change is..

Who cares what the fuck in the world change is (except the stupid videocon ad), I’ll just tell you how people change.

People change because the world around them changes. Some change for good. Some, for not so good. Though good or ‘not so good’ is relative, that’s an altogether distinct subject. Some forget faces. Some get used to forgetting faces. Some forget friends. Some get used to forgetting friends.

Getting used to forget is pathetic. Changing in such a way as to flee when people with you are in trouble is sick too. I know such people and hate them to the brim. Forgetting because you can’t remember is different. That’s me [;-). Can be because a person has too many things to remember (or forget). Maybe he is too fucked up. So it’s ok.

Most people change to survive. Our world, like nature, thrives on the concept of survival of the best. Practically. When the people surrounding a person get too good to cope with, he/she doesn’t have any alternative but to get good enough. Or else that person ends up a loser and the world doesn’t belong to losers, I tell you. You may have observed that when you meet an old friend and you realize that he hasn’t changed much; your instinct also tells you that he hasn’t grown much either. Mentally of course. This is not a hard rule to judge anyone but I’ve observed it.

So when someone was not the same guy you saw when he was your best friend, you’ve got to understand that he was almost forced to change if not tempted. If tempted, its bad that he changed. If forced, well get over with it. Those who change for the need must have changed usually to become a more complex person. Or a more uninviting, more unwilling. Or a more dynamic, extravagant. Or a more insecure, unreasonable person. But change doesn’t impliedly mean that the person is not in your range. It only means that your friend doesn’t behave the same way anymore given a situation (It can also mean that you are too dumb now :-P). Nevertheless, he is still your friend and you know how to deal with your friend – hang around.